Andrew, I’m with you all the way until we get to “Dyad practices (tightly controlled alterations of speaking and listening personal experience between two people;)”. Not just ‘controlled’, but ‘tightly controlled’. This introduces an element of fear which negates all the previous claims to want to open up to ‘frank conversation’ in groups. It is only fear that seeks to control ‘the other’, that cannot trust that everything that arises for you is FOR you. That trust is expressed in your belief that we don’t need fixing. Then it has to be put into practice to realise it, which means feeling the fear, and engaging anyway.
I've found that the dyad space with it's clear roles has helped me to distinguish between what's mine and what's another's business. This has been helpful and clarifying. It powerfully cuts through unconscious projection, my own and anothers.
Andrew, I’m with you all the way until we get to “Dyad practices (tightly controlled alterations of speaking and listening personal experience between two people;)”. Not just ‘controlled’, but ‘tightly controlled’. This introduces an element of fear which negates all the previous claims to want to open up to ‘frank conversation’ in groups. It is only fear that seeks to control ‘the other’, that cannot trust that everything that arises for you is FOR you. That trust is expressed in your belief that we don’t need fixing. Then it has to be put into practice to realise it, which means feeling the fear, and engaging anyway.
I've found that the dyad space with it's clear roles has helped me to distinguish between what's mine and what's another's business. This has been helpful and clarifying. It powerfully cuts through unconscious projection, my own and anothers.
I just followed the link to dyad meditations, and realised that the need for ‘safety’ may be a priority for some. it’s not for me to judge.
Thanks Anna. Paradoxically, structural clarity can set the stage for greater risk taking and unguardedness not less. That's been true for me.