Personal Courage and Agency in a Difficult Hour

Back in the 60s the powerful new narrative of feminism was everywhere in the culture. At the heart this was the story that men had oppressed women throughout history. It was now time for the ascendancy of women and the subjugation of men as a worthy sex. There were no more good guys. Such were the times! The force of the narrative was such that a man who wanted to be successful with women or the culture had to take it on. Modern woman were expected to take it on too and look for a man who did as well.

The story was told so often that it was impossible to speak against it without risking social isolation. It was also even difficult to imagine the counter-narrative in depth. I wasn't able to do it myself for decades after I took it on. That's how thoroughly I bought in, along with most of my peers.

The story of masculine oppression and feminine victimhood was taken as unchallengeably correct. It's become a background cultural assumption for over sixty years, becoming more deeply embedded and unquestionably true with each new generation. The gender dysphoria and difficulty with stable loving relationships we see today are the blossoming of the seeds sown generations ago. The psychological effects on women, men and the family have deeply affected every family and every person.

What's happened is that the polarity between the sexes has been made to seem old-fashioned and regressive. The traditional strengths of both sexes are scorned and mocked. Women and men have been educated to not value themselves or to feel at home as the sex they are.

The qualities we used to love each other for are in the cultural shadow, hard to embody and rude to even mention.

How can we move more into the healthy polarity between men and women that make us happy together.

Archetypally he dreams of being respected, even revered, for what he can do for his woman, his family, his culture.

She wants to surrender to being loved and being love, secure in her feelings and that he's there for her.

Both sexes become whole through the other and their reciprocal two pole relationship.

The default now is that she leads and he follows; she is in the masculine role, not her man. Both are left with only the crumbs of love. This has profound relevance to the metacrisis we're in right now. To the extent that individual women and man are confused and off balance, they're unable to confront the behemoth of social control they're facing.

Men being men and women being women is the key
This is a time of hyper-individualism. It emphasizes the individual self at the expense of the community and a strong social order. This has been becoming more so over several hundred years. But the individual who's not strongly grounded in healthy relationship is confused and adrift. He or she doesn't know who they are. We need to be grounded in community and relationship and the deeper and stronger the relationship the better. Most important for healthy social relations is the man/woman dynamic. It sets the stage for how we show up in the world.

I'll say more about this below but men who can't take a leadership role in relationship are unable to participate effectively in the spiritual battle we're all now in; they're unlikely to even recognize it. Women who can't be in their feminine essence aren't able contribute to the fight either. The result is that men and women are often led to fight each other.

"When you break up the individuals from a community into individual units, they become disempowered because it's the collective consciousness and the collective energy of the group from which power comes.” Bruce Lipton

So true. And so today!

The spiritual battle

Many people are waking up to the fact that we're being intentionally misled, gaslit, controlled by a deep agenda of total control of every aspect of human life and nature. We're entering a time of deep surveillance and growing social control. Every aspect of life, every portion of the natural world is being commodified. Our beliefs, opinions and psyches are being shaped by external forces for the personal gain of the wannabe rulers, not the subjects. The old story of human exploitation by the powerful is dramatically expanded with our new psychological controls.

We're already largely socially controlled.

As if restrained by an invisible electric fence like the ones we use to keep dogs in the yard, we stay within the limits of acceptable opinion lest we get into big trouble. Without having decided to do so, we avoid transgressing and running the risk of social isolation.

Men's traditional role has always been to protect and fight for the community. Men's psyche and body are specialized to do this. In the past the enemy was visible and clear to all. Think of an invading army. Long ago kings fought in the front line side by side with the men they ruled. Increasingly though, the kings and generals have moved farther and farther back until now they are entirely invisible; we don't even know their names. We only see their agents, the corporate and political class national leaders and super-governmental organizations such as the UN, WHO, WEF together with vast network of nodes in these and other organizations. Weaponized propaganda makes the motives of the warlords and the behind-the-scene skullduggery increasingly hard to see, though many are seeing it anyway.

War is no longer physical but psychological. More accurately it's spiritual. Men and women are in a battle for the future that depends on our courage and wisdom, and especially our willingness to work together.

The wider society actively demonizes anyone who sees beyond the matrix because narrative control is the chief weapon. It won't be easy on those who see the double-speak and deception and state it publicly. It'll be an act of personal courage and wisdom to claim this knowledge and live it.

Men become men when they fight together alongside other men for the good of all.

This restoration of courage through active engagement is an important part of the cure for the ills that ail us: depression, anxiety, couch-potatoism. Horrified fascination! Without direct engagement with the moment we're in, we stand on the sidelines and hold back, doubting ourselves. We forsake our integrity as men and women and take ourselves out of the game.

There's a fight a coming and we're all needed. We need the men as men. We need the women as women to be the heart and keep the world together.